Awesome Comment of the Week: Steve W!

Steve Wuerl PicThis week’s Awesome Comment comes from a very long time friend (from high school!), Steve W! He is responding to this blog post, the third in a series on Kindness. You can listen to our Podcast on the same topic here.

“This article on the benefits of kindness just blew me away. Although it is easy to develop a hard heart when things do not go the way we wanted it to, the opportunity to something kind for someone else selflessly makes all of us better off. A pair of sandals to someone in need, or a cup of tea to a soldier can mean more for the giver than the receiver. Thanks for this post. A moment to reflect can be quite humbling.”
Steve W.

Thank you, Steve, for your kind words and support!

Free Hugs: Four Additional Benefits of Kindness!

What are four additional real-world benefits of kindness, as outlined in Podcast #3: One Of A Kind? Why is acting with kindness as a lifestyle habit important? Is it worth the effort? From my perspective, there are very few things of more importance that you can do to create and maintain a fulfilling life. Here’s more reasons why:

Kindness changes lives.

Kindness changes lives.

Benefit #1: Kindness changes lives.
Even the smallest act of kindness changes things for both the giver and the receiver. When the giver offers an act of kindness, it raises their own personal vibrational frequency, which raises the energy that flows to the receiver. This raises the receiver’s energy as well. We experience this as an increase in energy, happiness and an increased sense of connection to the world around us.

From a scientific perspective, this phenomenon is called “entrainment.” Entrainment is the tendency for two oscillating bodies to synchronize when exposed to each other for an extended period of time. One object may set another object into motion if it shares the same resonant frequency. So, if you strike a tuning fork, for example, and bring it near another tuning fork of the same frequency, the second fork will begin vibrating. This form of communication takes place at the very basic levels of our existence because we all experience the world as frequencies of energy and information. And anything that raises this energy to higher levels is a benefit. This benefit changes the experience of life immediately, with potential long-term effects.

Kindness is always possible.

Kindness is always possible.

Benefit #2: Kindness is always possible.
Even in the most difficult or terrifying times, kindness is possible. It’s a choice, and when it is exercised in these situations it is remarkable, even miraculous. Consider these true examples:

In Nazi Germany, during World War 2, at a time when Jewish members of the population were being targeted for elimination, a German businessman named Oskar Schindler saved the lives of over a thousand mostly Polish-Jewish refugees by hiring them in his factories. To the skeptical Nazi government, Schindler insisted these lives were necessary to keep his factory running, and thereby out of harm’s way. This was at direct risk to his life.

In 2013, five-year-old Jocelyn Rojas was playing in her front yard when she suddenly disappeared. Rojas’s parents feared the worst, so they alerted police and began a frantic search of their neighborhood. Instead of waiting for the police to find the little girl, fifteen year-old Temar Boggs and his friend decided to start looking for her themselves. Soon, they spotted Rojas in a car with a man, so they began to follow the car on their bicycles. The man tried to lose them for fifteen minutes. Finally, he seemingly gave up, pulled over, and shoved Jocelyn from the car. Temar returned her to her grateful and relieved parents.

Recently, a high school freshman saw an isolated classmate being bullied by a group of popular kids. They knocked him down, scattering his glasses and a huge stack of books. He ran over and helped him up, offered him a few kind words of encouragement, and helped carry his books to his home. Four years later the bullied boy, now the high school validictorian, expressed his gratitude to the kind classmate in his speech. The day he was bullied, he had planned to commit suicide over the weekend. He had cleaned out his locker so his mother wouldn’t have to do it later – that’s why he had such a large stack of books. The encouragement and kindness from the stranger changed his plans.

Kindness is a choice that is always available to anyone, at any time.

Kindness is always a reasonable response.

Kindness is always a reasonable response.

Benefit #3: Kindness is always a reasonable response.
Circumstances in life are often unreasonable. Yet, even in crazy situations, kindness is a reasonable response. And while other responses may also be reasonable, kindness is always a viable option.

The Golden Rule admonishes us to “do unto others as we would have them do unto us.” All religious faiths have passages that implore their believers to “love their enemy as themselves.” The Hebrew and Christian Bibles, the Quran, and the written faiths of Chinese Taoism and Buddhism all revere kindness and compassion as virtues.

Kindness can reveal the humanity in any situation. It can be very instructive for us to pause, take a step back from what’s happening in the circumstances, and see if there might be a way to apply kindness to the situation. It can be like applying salve to a wound. It carries with it the potential to heal, or at very least arrest injury. And isn’t it possible that stopping a criminal from committing a crime is a kind and reasonable act?

Kindness is the path to a new way of living.

Kindness is the path to a new way of living.

Benefit #4: Kindness is the path to a new way of living.
There is a special type of person who makes kindness their primary way of life. They are a pleasure to be around. They are connected with others. They are warm and inviting, attractive and wise. They are magnetic. Charismatic. They offer energy to every situation, and raise the vibration of those around them.

Because they experience life as a series of opportunities to support others, they have become rare individuals. They’ve found their way to happiness. They’ve discovered that the secret to creating and maintaining a fulfilling life doesn’t consist of the accumulation of things, the winning of arguments, the hoarding of wealth or the controlling of others … but rather one simple principle to live by: kindness toward others.

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People Are Amazing: Soren the Woodworker!

Sometimes people’s creativity really blows my mind. It’s the wonderful ability to see what is possible within the common and typical. Watch this short video as master woodworker Soren creates something quite elegant, simple, minimalist and beautiful out of a short section of log. Brings a new meaning to the term “natural light.” :)

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Free Hugs: Love Notes.

A chance encounter … but where might it lead? This is a wonderful short film about connection, communication and compassion. Simple and thoughtful, and I believe well worth your time. I hope you find it valuable.

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Free Hugs: Poor Laborer, Now Beloved Legend!

One never knows where the influence of their labor may lead. Dashrath Manjhi, a poor workman from Bihar, India, found out the hard(work) way.

The poor laborer wanted his people to have access to doctors, jobs, education, and opportunities. But their tiny town was bordered by a mountain that kept them isolated and disconnected. One day, when his wife was climbing the mountain to bring him food, she fell down and became injured. He got an idea that was called “crazy” and “mad” by his fellow townsfolk. Dashrath sold 3 goats to buy the hammer and chisel needed to break into the 300 foot mountain – BY HIMSELF! See the incredible story of a man who toiled for 22 years with only a hammer, chisel, and crowbar to carve a road so the people from his village could access doctors, schools and jobs!

If this isn’t going The Mile That Matters, nothing is! Enjoy!

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Free Hugs: 3 (More) Benefits of Kindness!

What are three (more – the first three are available here) real-world benefits of kindness, as outlined in Podcast #3: One Of A Kind? Why is acting with kindness as a lifestyle habit important? Is it worth the effort? From my perspective, there are very few things of more importance that you can do to create and maintain a fulfilling life. Here’s why:

People need love and kindness.

People need love and kindness.

People need love and kindness.
It’s no secret that people in today’s world are more stressed, on edge and dissatisfied than possibly any other time in the history of mankind. Life has accelerated to a pace that is difficult for many to maintain. Competition is at an all-time high. Social media has blurred the lines between individual privacy and public entertainment. For school-aged children, bullying has become a significant issue, with nearly one in three students reporting they have been bullied in the past year according to the National Center for Educational Statistics (re: the United States). A British Social Attitudes survey reports that employees are more dissatisfied with their jobs and work-life balance in the UK than in most other European countries. And a Psychology Today Body Image Survey of 4,000 men and women found that 56 percent of women and 54% of men were dissatisfied with their overall appearance. The statistics for youth 13-19 years old were similar.

Author Henry David Thoreau famously wrote that, “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.” But it doesn’t need to be this way. You now know that kindness lends voice to that song, and that people need not remain locked in their dissatisfaction, unhappiness and depression. When you take a look around, there’s always someone in need, and always something you can do, no matter how small or seemingly inconsequential.

People love kindness. It feeds them. It nourishes them. And it sustains them because, in it’s purest form, kindness is love in action.

Kindness carries within it healing energy.

Kindness carries within it healing energy.

Kindness carries within it healing energy.
In our opening true story about Andy Mackie we encounter real-life, physical proof that Kindness heals. For Andy, after 9 heart surgeries, a weakened heart and body, and multiple daily heart medications, he’d had enough of his lifestyle. He knew he didn’t have much time, so he simply made a choice to give what time he had left, and the money he was spending on heart medication, in service to teaching music to children. He even said that he expected to die soon … which indicates that Andy didn’t do this to help himself, only to help others.

Then a miraculous thing happened: the more Andy gave, the better he felt. His health improved, despite no longer taking his medications. Andy lived the next 10 years this way, teaching children how to play harmonicas while enjoying improved vitality. Through giving to others, he received a life worth living.

Healing energy resides in each act of kindness. When you give to others, you heal them in some way, however big or small. The extent of the healing may not be something we can control, but positive benefits of kindness on the living is something we can count on. Andy didn’t expect to live longer, but he did. Andy Mackie was One Of A Kind.

Kindness creates more of itself.

Kindness creates more of itself.

Kindness creates more of itself.
Each act of kindness raises the energy in the receiver, which feels good. This feeling creates its own momentum, and many times the receiver becomes the giver, offering their kindness to others. It’s as if the universe desires to bring people together, and has pre-wired us in ways that promote this.

An individual never knows the extent of the influence their acts of kindness may have. It’s like walking through a large field and planting seeds – the capacity to bear fruit is in each of the seeds you plant. You really can’t control which of them will grow – that’s up to nature, and depends on the soil, rain, sunshine and other factors the seeds are exposed to. But in nature, once the seeds have grown, they often spread their own seeds into the wind, ensuring the growth of more of their own. So the planting of one seed can, and often does, create a never-ending cycle of growth. It’s the same with people and living things. Being One of a Kind, through kindness, spreads and multiplies a single act into many benefits.

To learn more about the benefits of being One of a Kind, check out our One of a Kind Podcast.

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Awesome Comment of the Week: Natasha M!

Natasha Minson

This week’s awesome comment comes from Natasha M., TMTM Army Member #130…

I have just finished listening to Podcast #5: The Law of Attraction, and would like to take this opportunity to thank you for what you have created. The lessons you teach and the way you teach them are inspiring and entertaining. The inclusion of the stories at the top of each podcast is brilliant. They open people’s minds to the possibilities provided by the universe and make absorption of the coming lesson so much easier.
Natasha M.

Thank you for the support, Natasha. And thanks for being a The Mile That Matters Army member. I really appreciate it!